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#Overweight gay massage therapist how to#
Have you ever had a massage that you tolerated because you did want to speak up? Or have you received a massage you just didn’t know how to make it better. They may just be the one to get you back to good health. You just may find the therapist that is just right for you regardless of their gender. And…if you are brave enough to understand, try a new approach. I always hear the phrase “Empowered patient.” Well, be an “Empowered massage client”. We can never make the assumption for you. TELL them before getting off of the phone. The receptionist is usually VERY busy and may forget to ask if you have a preference. It starts when you are booking your appointment. No one wants you to drive all the way from Timbuktu to get a massage you don’t want. Never, ever put “no preference” or “preferred” anything unless you mean it.
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If after that 30 minutes, you just cannot stomach it, then you know the next time you book, do so with the verbal request to have “female only” or “male only”. Book a 30 minute massage on just your back, neck and shoulders. If you have never had a massage by a therapist of the gender you are worried about, here is my suggestion to you. How can I paint you better or paint the picture you would like to see after our session? What do you have that I can fix in this session? How can I help you to feel better, relax or whatever? You are my blank canvas and I am the artist.
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When I go into a room with you and I finish your interview, I come in and start your massage and the only thing on my mind is what do I feel muscle wise. I don’t care if you are overweight, thin, have cellulite, are old, young, hairy, bald, whatever (but please don’t come in with dirty feet J). I can only tell you my perspective as a massage therapist when I’m working with my clients. Many clients are concerned that the therapist is judging them. So, years later, I now say “Awww, how sweet”, while still thinking “You have GOT to be kidding me!”ģ. His wife was nowhere in sight and yet he still respected her enough to honor her wishes. In my mind, I was saying, “You have GOT to be kidding me! There is not a woman sitting in this lobby!” If you think about it though, you have to respect the guy. My wife would shoot me if she knew I had received a massage from a female therapist. He took one look at me and said, “Oh no, no, no, no. I went out to get a male client and was heading toward him to shake his hand and introduce myself. I will never forget when I was doing my externship back when CCC still had the massage clinic in the area behind the front desk and it was called “Lasting Impressions”. Well…it can be really easy to just assume he is not comfortable with a male touching a male. If it is a male who is a “female preferred” or “female only”. It may even be something like having large breasts from age or “life.” Been there, done that (I am not 20 anymore)!!Ģ. Women therapists would be more inclined to understand a weight issue, or a cellulite problem, or an “I just feel fat and do NOT want a man to see me half naked” issue. It may also be something as simple as the fact that they may be uncomfortable with their body image. Unfortunately, we usually don’t, nor are they inclined to tell us in most cases. This would be very understandable if we only knew the story behind the request. This may be, but not limited to, a father, husband, ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, etc. If it is a female who is a “female preferred” or a “female only”, the choice may be because of a past abuse. We, as therapists, often forget, or don’t think about issues that the client may have. The same can be said for the male client who is booked but is not happy when a male therapist comes out to get him. Since I am so comfortable with a male therapist, I often am flabbergasted when a client comes in and is uncomfortable when a male therapist comes out to get her for the appointment. Maybe it is because guys don’t spend as much time wondering about the where and why for’s, but simply get in there and get the job done. That being said, I know a couple of teeny, tiny, female therapists that can make me squirm and make me scream “UNCLE!”. It has just been my experience that a male therapist can often give deeper pressure than most female therapists. This is not to say that one is more capable than the other. Let’s explore a number of variables that may sway a client’s gender choices. Most of therapists are comfortable with receiving our massage from either a male or female therapist.